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[We talked about this before in our last meeting, but I guess it took me several weeks for me to gather my thoughts and focus to blog about it---even now, I think this post is really broken up]
In the last meeting, I was talking about how much time, effort, and money we spend in order to trigger certain reactions from the people around you. How hard do we try so that people will comment, and momentarily revolve around us?

I would say that most people, or at least most teenagers- or at least most of the teenagers that I've met in my life, focus very much on trying to get these responses/approvals. I think this is the reason why people buy big shiny cars, buy nice clothes, put make-up on, go to the gym to work out, go to tanning salons, jack up the volume on their iPods while shaking his/her head frantically, etc. In one of essays that I wrote for the AWOL class I said, "In America, it is a rare to have people doing something for the sake of doing it. There has to be some sort of self-satisfaction, whether it in shape of a gift, money, return-service, tax-reduction, etc." And I think it still applies here. We're doing all these little things so that we can receive these comments that will satisfy our desire to be the center of attention.

This obsession for others approval may be the reason for our obsession for things like Facebook, MySpace, Twitter, etc. Those web pages may just be another accessory to project him/herself to the world, and have the world comment on his/her status.

Perhaps we're doing all of this because it has always been our nature to put ourselves out there. As an infant, we always projected ourselves whenever we wanted something that only others can provide us. But as we grow out of the diaper changes and the nipple, the need for the attention remains (for some, the other two will return at a later age). It could also be that it is part of our animal instincts to demonstrate that amongst each other, each of us are number one, if not in the world then at least in our capitalist society. Or perhaps, it has to do with our constant exposure to the media. Almost every aspect of the movie is made to display information to the viewers, whether it be about the characters, the mood, or the plot. Maybe, in the same way, we feel like we need to recount our lives. We want people to know about us and what's going on in our lives, so that they can give us reviews. Regardless of what the reason is, I think that we spend great amounts of efforts in getting others to acknowledge us and comment on us.

Other than just putting in time, effort, and money to receive these comments, I think we're also sacrificing our private lives and thoughts. For those who are honest, their private lives/thoughts are no longer private since "the outsiders" are well aware of what goes on in your family and in your head. For all the others who think that their lives and thoughts are boring, theirs might as well not even exist, because even the host will not have it. In this case, most people create lives (not really thoughts) that they wish they had. And I guess this is how this blog would connect to Kate's blog about the masking. One reason we create masks would be to conceal the our boring lives, and instead we display something that can win the approval of others and possibly trigger responses and comments.